The biggest dilemma in everyone's life comes before deciding whether to accept the apology of someone or reject it.
The most agonising feel occurs when someone close, hurts you emotionally. There is no one particular method to come to the conclusion, however an article by Marc Chernoff in marcandangel.com lists out ten points to consider before forgiving someone.
'One must remember not to concentrate solely on the negative act, but also on the actions that followed the act,' the article says.
Before forgiving someone analyse whether the following points were affected.
The first point on the list is Family, think if your family was offended in anyway or wrongfully implicated.
Sometimes when money is involved, it can make a long detrimental effects and affect the livelihood.
Was the pain implicated on par with love shattered in any way? Love is one of the strongest emotional feelings and hurting it can have permanent effects.
Everyone needs to be respected and it is the foundation of all relationships. Did the actions depict lack of moral values?
Trust and friendship go hand in hand, it is essential to know if the person breached trust and broke the friendship bond just to benefit someone else or themselves.
One more important aspect is how long have you have known the person and their importance in your life.
Were you betrayed by the person? If yes, was that a directed intentional one, or whether you felt betrayed.
It should also be noted with what intention did the person do that.
Last but not the least is what your gut feeling says about the person and the situation.
These points might help you to draw a line before forgiving or not.
