Avoiding situations that frighten has helped our species to survive at many times. However the same tactics will not be helpful when it comes to taking over a new role at work.
Though we may feel a little relieved temporarily by evading the problem, we should also understand that it limits the opportunity for growth and development.
We can overcome this by asking ourselves three questions:
* What's my doomsday scenario. This is the worst case type situation that your fear and worry.
The reason you want to think about this day is to recognise that it's really only one possibility- and an incredibly unlikely one at that.
* What's my dream scenario
Now think of the exactly opposite scenario from the previous one. The dream scenario is the absolute number one best case situation you can imagine.
Of course this sounds very nice, but it's probably as equally unrealistic as the doomsday scenario - and it's important for you to note that as well.
* What's my most realistic scenario
The realistic scenario is the situation that is most likely to occur if you can put aside the worry gene and stop fantasising about best-case scenarios.
This is the relatively mundane reality most of us operate in: that when we step up there on stage, we probably won't be a total flop...and, by the way, probably won't wow the audience either. We'll most likely have some good moments, and some not so good moments, but on the whole, it will likely be better than we think.
Instead of focusing on extremes that are unlikely to occur, find a way to embrace the middle ground.
There is no magical formula for success, it is all about the stepping stone for building confidence and courage.
Courtesy: www.thriveglobal.com
