The quality of your life is determined by who you are, not by what you accomplish. We are, after all, human beings not human doings.
Most of us still measure the quality of our daily experiences, the quality of our lives by what we do. We seldom determine the value of our life experience by how we are or on the beingness of it all.
What would happen if we did the following things?
* What if you and I ignored the urge to check out the check marks on our to-do lists before getting into our PJs and brushing our teeth? What if we sat quietly somewhere before bed and reflected on how we were that day; how we felt and how others seemed to feel around us rather than on what we accomplished and who we did more than? Would the quality of our day change?
There are a few important questions to be asked at the end of the day. Here are some questions worth asking yourself:
* How was your day? Really?
* Were you feeling peaceful and calm at certain points of your day? If so, you can give yourself lots of points for that.
* Were you loving and compassionate with your colleague when s/he spilled coffee all over the stuff you were working on, or did you refrain from honking your horn at the slow driver in front of you that made you fifteen minutes late for your appointment? Give yourself even more points, if you said yes. Your day score is getting better.
* Were you mindful and aware of the beauty around you? Did you appreciate it? Did you whisper a few words of prayerful gratitude? If so, better still.
* Did you seek stillness and quiet at some point for a few minutes at least? Did you take a moment to just breathe and observe the life force within you?
Start checking if there is room for improvement.
Even if you have big beautiful checkmarks beside everything on your to-do list at the end of your twenty-four-hour time block, there may still be room for improvement in the being department.
How would you answer the following questions?
* How was your day? Really?
* Were you tense, irritable, stressed out in the process of the doing?
* Were you experiencing rage, impatience, or resentment for more than a few minutes today?
* Did you complain or criticize a great deal?
* Did you consciously seek to do more or better than someone else?
* Were you unkind or unloving to anyone or anything, including yourself?
* Did you fail to reach out to someone you knew was in need?
* Did you forget to notice, let alone appreciate, all the beauty of life that was going on around you and in you?
If you said yes to a few of those questions above, maybe it is time to work on improving the quality of your day and of your life.
Don’t be too hard on yourself, though, for you are not alone. Many of us will answer yes to those questions if we are being honest. Most of us spend too many moments of our day diminishing its quality by getting too wrapped up in doing.
The quality of your life is determined by who you are, not by what you accomplish.
Recognising the problem is the first step to healing. All it takes to begin the change is three simple steps.
* The first step is to be more conscious, before you drift off to sleep, about how you are living your life regardless of the things you get done or do not get done.
* Next, than doing. Of course you will have to do something but prioritise the living component over the doing component for the upcoming 24 hours.
* Finally, write a to-be list instead of a to-do list for tomorrow. It may look something like this:
Tomorrow I will be
* mindful
* aware
* peaceful
* a person who seeks reasons to smile and laugh
* loving
* appreciative
* forgiving
* thoughtful
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