We are always obsessing over things that might go wrong, about the disheartening things people might think about us, and so on. In a nutshell, we are focused on the negative possibilities only.
What you need to realise is that, regardless of what’s going on in your life, there’s a good chance you’ll be just fine. The world will keep turning, and life will be okay.
The truth is, even if our fears transpire, 99 per cent of the time we will be fine.
An article in marcandangel lists out some clear signs that you will be just fine, even if you don’t feel fine right now.
* You have to remember that everything in life is temporary. There is literally a second chance every second.
You are a product of your past, but you don’t have to be a prisoner of it. You become a prisoner when you cling to what no longer exists.
You have to learn to let go and accept the feeling of not knowing exactly where you’re going next, and train yourself to love and appreciate this freedom.
* Life gives us a broad range of very different experiences that gradually wrap our emotions up in anger and love and heartbreak and joy and frustration and excitement and loneliness and confusion, one after another.
These are all part of our reality – our collective human condition.
You can attempt to resist and deny the experiences of sadness, frustration, confusion, and so forth. Just beware that all of these choices will ultimately lead you in spiraling circles of deeper and darker despair.
A more effective choice, perhaps, is to fully embrace reality and the broad range of life experiences you encounter, taking the good with the bad, including all of your emotions, ups and downs.
It means not expecting to always be the perfect human living the perfect life, but instead accepting reality as it is, and accepting yourself as you are, and then making the best of it.
* When everything is broken, it’s easy to find plenty of little things you can fix. When nothing seems to be going right, even the most fundamental positive effort can make a significant difference. When there are problems in every direction, there is also great value waiting to be created.
When everything is going well, it’s easy to get lulled into a routine of complacency. It’s easy to forget how incredibly capable and resourceful you can be. Resolve to persevere one small step at a time.
The bottom line is that every moment of your life builds upon the next. This moment is the bridge between the reality of where you are and the vision of where you want to be.
