It is that time of the year where everyone is in the festival mood to celebrate Christmas and New Year. Most of us spend the final days of the year off from work and school, reflecting on the state of our lives.
It’s not all bad, of course, but even when times are generally good, our minds have a tendency to drift back to personal losses and sadness.
It is during this time we have to proactively feed ourselves the right reminders to ease our aching minds and redirect our energy effectively.
Here are few tips that will help you to achieve this.
* The important thing to remember is that you don’t have to face hard times by yourself.
Don’t be scared to let someone special in when you are in a dark place. You know who this person is. Don’t expect them to solve your problems; just allow them to face your problems with you. Give them permission to stand beside you. They won’t necessarily be able to pull you out of the dark place you’re in, but the light that spills in when they enter will at least show you which way the door is.
* Yes, you’ve been hurt. You’ve gone through numerous ups and downs that have made you who you are today. So many things have happened—things that have changed your perspective, taught you lessons, and forced your spirit and soul to grow.
Give yourself credit for your resilience and how far you’ve come.
Life often leads us on journeys we would never go on if it were up to us. Don’t be afraid. Have faith. Believe. Believe in yourself through hard times. Believe in your capacity to heal.
* Every single day we have to accept the fact that things will never go back to how they used to be, and that this ending is really the beginning. This concept might be tough to accept sometimes, but it’s always the truth.
Everything in life—every situation and every relationship—has to come to an end eventually. It’s important to appreciate and accept the end of an era—to walk away sensibly when something has reached its inevitable conclusion.
Letting go, turning the page, moving forward, etc. It doesn’t matter what you call it, what matters is that you leave the past where it belongs so you can make the best of the life that’s presently available to be lived.
* Where does this tension we feel come from? We’re resisting life in some way—perhaps we’re disheartened by the truth, frustrated at our circumstances, or overwhelmed by the road ahead. And our mental resistance generates a tension in our bodies and unhappiness in our lives.
The goal isn’t to get rid of all your negative thoughts, feelings, and life situations—that’s impossible. The goal is to change your response to them.
Anchoring yourself in the present is the first step in this process. Because no matter what, you can always fight the battles of today.
The easiest way to find presence, and change your immediate response, is to start by evaluating the tension in your body and posture.
* Some might say you are incredibly wealthy and privileged. So remember to be thankful for all the things you do have. Let your enthusiasm rise from the doldrums by seizing the very real and present opportunity you have to be appreciative.
Seriously, look around, and be thankful right now. For your health, your family, your friends, and your home. Nothing lasts forever.
And even in times of uncertainty—even when life seems far from perfect—it’s always important to keep the simple things in perspective.
Courtesy: www.marcandangel.com
