There are all kinds of people at work, we get along with some of them easily and would want to stay away from a few.
Whatever our personal opinion is, we cannot simply ignore them as we can grow only when we share idea.
But, how are we going to achieve that is the biggest challenge that we might face.
The answer to this is very simple, all you have to do is keep calm.
It is easier said, than done and here are a few tips that will keep you cool whatever the situation may be.
* You may take all efforts to make sure that you are disagreeing to something in a polite way. However, your body language will betray you. It is important to maintain a neutral body position at times of disagreement and don't throw your emotions in your words.
* Learn to regulate your emotions and never respond without thinking. If your colleague is shouting, don’t shout back. When you refuse to mimic their behaviour it will give them time to auto-correct theirs and become wary of what they are saying. Don’t add to the conversation, especially if you think they are all over the place.
* Despite your colleague’s argumentativeness, look for logic in their argument and highlight that. This will show that you are following their line of thought closely. Say, 'I understand why you are saying so'; 'Your approach is absolutely on point' or 'You have a valid point when you say... but'. You will notice that once you show confidence in them they will recede and participate in a mature conversation with you.
You will need to follow restraint in your approach and allow yourself as much as others to filter out anger/frustration from your/their system.
Courtesy: www.peoplematters.in
