You will start to have a better life when you realise that it isn't something to be endured or tolerated but an experience of your own creation.
Your life is your creation. You have most things you need to shape it and make it incredible. It’s not something that happens to you?—?unless you abandon your position as its chief architect. If you think your life is out of your control, it’s because you’ve chosen to relinquish the controls.
Even when you feel that there is no way out, you can always make something better of it.
An article in thriveglobal.com suggests a few mindsets that can radically improve your success and make you a stronger person.
* Simply sitting back and letting things happen doesn’t yield the quality of life you aspire. Only when you follow your dreams your can create new opportunities.
It’s a struggle almost every adult goes through. 'What do I want to do with my life?' 'What do I not suck at?' Millions of people have no clue what they want to do with themselves. And that’s okay.
Asking these questions is not going to yield immediate clarity and sense of purpose.
Curiosity, being open to explore the unknown, ready to embrace the surprises that come along the way, are essential attitudes for self-discovery and for gaining clarity about your own life purpose.
* The first and the greatest courage in life is the courage to take responsibility for own life. Like it or not, you alone are responsible for the person you are
You already have this ability and the responsibility for your life. Everyone does. But most us aren’t willing to accept that we alone have the power to live our lives how we want it.
Stop blaming your problems and failures?—?big or small?—?on the people around you. Stop using 'circumstances beyond my control' as the scapegoat for your own choices, decisions, behaviours, and actions. Be accountable for your actions.
* There is no such thing as perfect. The perfect outcome can sometimes elude you. You won’t achieve every goal. But it’s important to make plans and move on. Spend just as much time learning what to do when things inevitably stray off your path as you do to create the plan in the first place.
Your best strategy when making a plan is to make contingency plans for the inevitable result that life will not unfold according to plan.
Life is unpredictable. And that’s okay. Embrace it. Always be ready for change. It’s what makes life so interesting.
* You have to remember that every obstacle in life is a learning curve.
What matters most is not what these obstacles are but how we see them, how we react to them, and whether we keep our composure.
You will learn that this reaction determines how successful we will be in overcoming?—?or possibly thriving because of?—?them.
People who persist no matter the obstacles, sooner or later are bound to succeed. Despite the setbacks, it’s in your best interest to turn obstacles into stepping stones. Don’t choose to complain, or worse, to just give up. These choices do nothing to get you across the finish line.
* There will be slow progress or not happen at all if you do not give your 100 per cent in the work that you do.
Our minds are a bit funny, full of cognitive biases that have been shaped overtime by experiences, events, and memories. Over time, your beliefs can cause your brains to draw false conclusions about life that affects the way you think, and the decisions you make.
You don’t always need the perfect plan. Sometimes you just need to give it a try, let go, and see what happens. That’s courage. Action begets outcome. Outcome begets action. Rinse, lather and repeat and you have momentum. You’ll become unstoppable.
The biggest screw up you can make is to just give up and accept that you can’t succeed because of you who you are or where you come from. If you are going through hell, don’t stop. And if you catch hell, don’t hold it.
* You cannot become a master of something right from the word go. Most people quit the moment they experience that first disappointment. It’s a test. You have to fight your way through. That’s what matters. A few people stick around until they get it right. In fact, you rarely get it right in the beginning.
When we start to believe that we can do no wrong, we lose the edge that keeps us alert and open to new opportunities for growth.
When you practice something?—?anything?—?you improve, you grow, you advance, you gain a skill and heaps of confidence in the process, because you get better with time.
* Being perfect is not important, but getting the job done matters. The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists. It rewards people who get things done.
Give yourself time in your life to wonder what’s possible and to make even the slightest moves in that direction. Following through and finishing things is one of the most important things you can learn.
When you do not succeed don't be disappointed or make a wrong choice. It will only lead to self destructive behaviour.
Remember that no matter how many mistakes you make, or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.