What we see in life, how we feel about ourselves, our lives, and the people around us greatly depends on how we think.
The somewhat scary truth is, our mental perspective on just about everything comes from the psychological cage we have been conditioned to live in. A cage created by difficult or disappointing past, privileged or sheltered life, social influence, pop-culture and mass-media stereotyping.
This can be overcome by taking a general assessment of your life and, if necessary, stop one or more of the three toxic behaviors covered below.
* We have to learn the art of letting go and being okay with it. That is one of the greatest struggles many of us deal with on a daily basis.
In the game of life, we all receive a unique set of unexpected limitations and variables in the field of play.
The question is: How will you respond to the hand you have been dealt? You can either focus on the lack thereof or empower yourself to play the game sensibly and resourcefully, making the very best of every outcome as it arises, even when it’s heartbreaking and hard to accept.
There’s so much about life that we can’t control, it makes no sense to waste all our energy on these things and then blatantly neglect everything we can control.
We can choose how we’re going to respond to life’s surprises and disappointments when they arise, and whether we will see them as curses or opportunities for personal growth.
* You spend all your mental energy resisting life, rather than making the best of it.
When you consciously choose to let go of the way it 'should' be, you free your mind to deal with life’s unexpected changes, challenges and chaos in the most effective way possible.
Closing the door, completing the chapter, turning the page, etc. – it doesn’t matter what you title it, what matters is that you find the strength to leave in the past those parts of your life that are over, so you can better attend to the present.
* Whenever we demand control over the uncontrollable, or stubbornly resist the present reality of our lives, needless drama ensues.
The drama you are going through at any given moment is not fueled by the words or deeds of others, or any external sources at all; it is fueled primarily by your mind that gives the drama importance.
The problem is that we’re holding on too tightly to ideals that don’t match reality. We have subconsciously set up expectations in our minds of what we want other people to be, what we want ourselves to be, and what our work and relationships and life 'should' be like.
Our attachment to our ideals stirs anxiety in our minds and stress in our lives.
Focus, carefully, on what you’re feeling. Don’t numb it with distractions, but instead bring it further into your awareness.
Courtesy: www.marcandangel.com
