Here's the question:
"I find it difficult to ask for help from my colleagues when at work because I don't really know how to ask for it properly without feeling embarrassed or feeling that I am stupid, how can I do this?"
Here are Few thoughts:
- It's unfortunate that a lot of us think this way because it is an all too common question.
- People don't like to be seen to not know what they are doing at times or that they feel that others will look down on them if they are seen that you cannot do the job yourself.
- This is ludicrous when you think of it. But the bottom line is that many of us cannot ask for help in a way that makes us feel OK and that gets the other person to say yes.
The secret in doing this is technique
Suggest that you approach someone, not for their help, but for their opinion on something. So, if saying "Can you please help me?" makes you shiver at the very thought of saying it, then try:
- "Could I get your opinion on something?" (or) "Can get I get your take on?" (or),
- "Could you give me some advice?" (or) "I'd really value your opinion on" (or),
- "I'd value your thoughts on"
By phrasing the "Help" question in this way you are basically saying that you know what you are doing but you would also like "another take" on it as well.Also, by using the phrases above you are in effect saying to the other person that you really value their knowledge rather than just saying "Can you help me"
Try out the phrases above and they will make a massive impact on your working relationships. Who knows? It could even lighten your workload! Success is Yours!
