There are certain procedures that a married woman has to undergo and the most difficult of them is deciding whether to continue with their maiden name or the name of their husband.
Stacey lastoe in her article in themuse.com says that she preferred using her husband's name as she never felt attached to her maiden name for various reasons.
One of the major reasons what the author states is the difficulty of having two identities.
'I hated the idea of having two identities: one personally and one professionally. My life isn’t compartmentalized like that, and it was starting to feel really confusing being a Gawronski sometimes and a Lastoe other times. My head already spun every time a signature was required of me. Was I Mrs. Lastoe or was I Ms. Gawronski? Who the heck was I?,' the author conveys.
Now that the author has changed her surname she lists out a few points that may be useful for those who want to change their surname.
The first point which the author stresses on is to do what you want to do. Whenever you do something there will be someone who will always say something against your decision. Do not worry about what anyone says or thinks.
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It is only you who will be responsible and incharge for your choice.
The author suggests to inform the HR regarding your name change so that they can make the necessary adjustment so that you don't face any hardships in the future. This will also ensure that your name is displayed properly in your company.
The author says that she had to spent one afternoon to mail her editors about the name change. ' To my surprise, all were amendable and responded quickly that it was taken care of. I was amazed and delighted as this was the part that I’d been most concerned about when I decided to go 100% Stacey Lastoe. I felt motivated enough to get a new personal site up and running to help cement my new last name professionally,' she said.
The changing of name does not have to happen all at once.
The only rush should be in focusing on how you want it to be taken care of. There may be times when your maiden name is still used somewhere, however it should not bother you as much.
'Whatever you’ve heard about changing your name, know that it’s not reputation-ruining, it’s not a rejection of feminism, and it’s not the hardest thing you’ll ever do—not by a long shot,' the author stresses.
The author also suggests to think through your options and plan things before you make a legal change.
